I refer to this article on Matangitonga Online edition on Wedneday 10th Sept 2014: Ref: http://matangitonga.to/2014/09/10/tellers-tattle-intolerable-says-friend , thanks to Matangitonga for sharing it.
I think this writer’s opinion matters - especially if you are in business, employed, a church-goer, or whatever you do. It highlights one of the challenges we face in the workplace every single day. Some of you may say it is no big deal/only a gossip/childish, or whatever reasons you may have. But I think it is one's attitude here that is so needed to change, and likewise to our small country and in a culture that we are so called proud of. The culture is one thing - but the attitudes of the people towards the culture, work, organisations, employers, money, colleagues, families and friends need to change. And it is true what they say - it starts from the home!!
But how can we make that change – one may ask?
In business and in life - INTEGRITY is everything. Integrity is much deeper than just a set of rules - it should represent the person that you are, the organisation you are in and most importantly for the glory of the King above. Your Values and your organisation's Code of Conduct should never be played out like a fool, instead honour them. A person’s personal life is no one’s business. Nowadays in this culture – the personal and professional lives of people are being brought into the mix in the workplace and that automatically becomes the centre of attention for gossips and backstabbing instead of focusing on what they were hired to do in the first place. And because the action of the story-teller in this article not only you are hurting another person's feelings, but you are also bringing down your own self, your clients, your employer, your organisation's integrity just like that.
For what reward – one may ask?
I would suggest as a Tongan in Tonga - we should not encourage these sorts of behaviours in the workplace (or anywhere) but instead - lend a helping hand to those in need of personal transformation of attitude in the workplace so that they can learn and know better themselves. If it is making one healthy – then let it be. But I cannot grasp the fact that one could call it ‘healthy’. When they know better – they will do better, that’s my hope! And if they don’t want to learn anything – then fire them ha ha…
They once said – what they hear they forget – what they teach goes along way. These days it seems so easy to dwell on the negatives and buy into a culture of that manner – but it seems so hard to turn to your side and just say to them – “you need help – please leave it alone and move on”.
Be encouraged to break that cycle of negativity and bad attitudes in our culture and in the workplace – and start reaching out to those who really need our energy, resources and time. I bet you – you’ll feel so much better.
Our challenge is our own attitude to life. We’ve got to start somewhere.
What are your company's Values and Code of Conduct? Are your employees aware of it?
If not, teach it to them so that you are all on the same page - Happy as one can be.